So what you think?

[Javstar]

What do you think is the nicest way to approach a woman you like?
What question to ask, what to say..

[keenz_88]

Begin with hello =]

[Zanmato79]

...and pay her a compliment. Recently changed her hair for example, say it's nice and you'll give the impression that you've noticed her.

It can depend on what context and where you're talking to her. Then maybe ask what they've been up to over the weekend if say you're back in work on a Monday morning. You may find out if she's already seeing someone that way. If it's a bar or nightclub maybe ask her if she would like a drink and maybe ask for her opinion on the music or band that is playing. I've been using this technique for many a year with a success rate of 0%.

Interesting thread to have around this time of year though. In all honestly, if you really like her then in the words of one of my workmates 'just tell her how you bloody feel about her and ask her out'. Not easy but the worse that can happen is that she says 'No' but she'll be flattered nonetheless then marches into the HR office and complains of sexual harassment. That is the very worse case scenario. The fear of rejection is worse than actually being rejected but it is coupled with the regret that you will never know unless you try.

I'm no expert as I've had 0 girlfriends but I'm sure Oldies will have words of wisdom for you.

Cheers :)

[snk4ever]

The most important thing is: say something.
If she's at least a little bit interested in you, she won't reject you right away even if you say stupid words.
She rejects you / makes fun of you = you'd better not lose your time with her...

[Garutska]

Act normal around her, don't put on a show, as that is not showing her who you truly are.

If you put on a show, the relationship will not last, and neither will it last if she doesn't like what you truly are.

If she doesn't have the same feeling about you, there is always the next one.

Being quite a hypocrite here, I liked someone for 6 years, never told her because I thought it was too hard, and find it quite difficult to talk to her sometimes, purely because I didn't and still don't have the courage to tell her.

DON'T MAKE THAT MISTAKE!!!

[azwolm]

I liked someone for 6 years, never told her because I thought it was too hard, and find it quite difficult to talk to her sometimes, purely because I didn't and still don't have the courage to tell her.

DON'T MAKE THAT MISTAKE!!!

In the same boat as you mate. Didnt have the guts to talk to her face to face. Had my chances but she's into someone else now. So that probably makes me worse off than you.

Sucks doesnt it, when you've liked someone for a long time, and have to give up. Many many years down the road when you're with another woman and she another man you'll be thinking: what if I had ended up with her?

[Rickyboy_H]

If its a complete stranger, then "hello/excuse me, i just saw you from the other side of the street, and i had to say that you look beautiful" usually works.. Someone may thing that its a bit too direct, but at least you're dead honest :lol:

And also, the girl usually get totally flabbergasted as you catch her off guard. (giggles, blushing and all that)

That method always works, even if the girl has a boyfriend (that happened a couple of times, but at least you'll know that you've made someones day for the rest of the day.)

The hard thing is obviously to start a proper conversation after the "introduction" but that's just something that you'll hone by trying a failing, since everybody's different.

[Zanmato79]

A little over three hours ago I asked a girl out in the office. I've had my eye on her for a long time so I thought to hell with this I have to let her know that I want to know her better. It was the first time ever that I've asked a girl out in any way at all so I took the 'no guts, no glory - go direct' approach.

I have never left a girl with such a red face and so speechless that I had to say she can tell me her answer tomorrow. She perhaps regain her composure and slap me one in the morning (at least, it will wake me up).

Cheers :)

[snk4ever]

A little over three hours ago I asked a girl out in the office. I've had my eye on her for a long time so I thought to hell with this I have to let her know that I want to know her better. It was the first time ever that I've asked a girl out in any way at all so I took the 'no guts, no glory - go direct' approach.

I have never left a girl with such a red face and so speechless that I had to say she can tell me her answer tomorrow. She perhaps regain her composure and slap me one in the morning (at least, it will wake me up).

Cheers :)
Nice job ! Keep us informed on the following events (if any).

[Zanmato79]

Nice job ! Keep us informed on the following events (if any).

OK, she regained her composure and she won't talk to me anymore...

'Can we talk about what I said?'
'I'd rather not, OK.'

Up goes that 10ft wall... All I said was I thought she was a nice, smart and attractive woman and if she would like a drink with me sometime?

:cry:

Therefore, direct might not be the best way. Live and learn...

[colourwheel]

There is no set right or wrong way to approach a woman you are intrested in.

some situations will you might need to put on a show. Other times you might need to just act like yourself. Sometime it might take just the right place at the right time, or the wrong place at the wrong time.

If they are a stranger, a co-worker, a friend, or just an acquaintance, every situation will be different.

the main reason for this is that every man and woman is different.

[ThatDude]

OK, she regained her composure and she won't talk to me anymore...

'Can we talk about what I said?'
'I'd rather not, OK.'

Up goes that 10ft wall... All I said was I thought she was a nice, smart and attractive woman and if she would like a drink with me sometime?

:cry:

Therefore, direct might not be the best way. Live and learn...

It really just depends on the person. Personally I just ask them out for something casual first like for a drink or something without the added compliments and during that outing you should be able to gauge their interest in you (if she is she'll unconsciously show you). If I think she is after that, then for the next outing i ask for a date; it's a bit of a slower direct build but it saves some of the potential embarrassment of going for broke right away.