How do we see beauty?????

[majormilo]

How do we see beauty

He say that beauty is in the eye of the beholder!

What if you can not see?

Then what indications does a person use to determine if a person
is beautiful or not?

Is beauty only skin deep or does it go beneath the outward shell?

These are a few questions I would like to address in this thought form.

First, I believe that beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

What one person sees as beautiful, another may not. Take
for example flowers; you may think they are beautiful where
at I may prefer a sunset and its beauty. People differ and
so do their opinions of beauty.

Next, How does a person who is blind physically know what
beauty is?

I have talked with others who are blind or visually impared. I believe
that those people whose eyes can not see the physical beauty of
people and things, can see the beauty that others possess through
their heart's eye.

I believe that those people who are physically unable to see, feel the
beauty that others possess through their compassion, attitude and
personality.

In saying this, I do not believe that beauty is only a physical
thing. I believe that unfortunitely people need to see
that outward beauty before they are willing to get to know
the true beauty of another person.

I do not believe that this is a fault of only one sex, both
are guilty of judging a persons beauty by what they see and
because of this, some of the most beautiful people are
overlooked because those looking are blinded by ignorance.

This ignorance is not of their own doing, but because of a
combination of things.

Society says that all women must look like the Barby
dolls that we played with as children, and men must be the
well-built athelete.

Also, most first impressions of anything, whether a person or a car
or a house, are visual.

Most of us in society do not fit the Barby doll image or that
well-built athelete.

Though many of us wish we did, few fit those models.
It is for this reason that I believe that we as society need
to begin to use the eyes that all of us possess to determine
what is beautiful.

I think that if everyone took the time to close their eyes and talk
to a stranger or get to know a person who they have not seen,
and were then to meet them and see them face to face, they would
likely be very surprised at what they found.

I want to challenge all of us to try using the hearts eye when
getting to know new people and I believe we will all find that
beauty goes much below the outward shell that we are all packaged in.

[ichibanbaby]

we see it outside like if they are beatiful...and we see it inside of them...like the personalities and stuff...it takes time and enought o know someone long enought to see it deep down in them... the most most important way to see beauty is if they have a kind heart!

[xBoAx]

in the eyes of the beholder.. sometimes one may find a person ugly.. then later another person may find the exact same person pretty.. so i guess its how we look at it

[nelfnelf]

I would agree, beauty is on the eyes of the beholder. It doesn't matters how beautiful the person you are with, but how you see theirs heart!! When they revel theirs heart to you, only then you can truly see the beauty of that person... What the person looks doesn't reflects what is on theirs heart.

[mrblue]

First, I believe that beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

What one person sees as beautiful, another may not. Take
for example flowers; you may think they are beautiful where
at I may prefer a sunset and its beauty. People differ and
so do their opinions of beauty.

I agree with you on this, majormilo. Each individual has his own opinion on what beauty is. This opinion may be based on his own experiences and the environment that he is in. By the way, I do not like flowers.

Next, How does a person who is blind physically know what beauty is?

I have talked with others who are blind or visually impared. I believe
that those people whose eyes can not see the physical beauty of
people and things, can see the beauty that others possess through
their heart's eye.

I believe that those people who are physically unable to see, feel the
beauty that others possess through their compassion, attitude and
personality.

Their eyes may not function but they can still 'see' with their other senses. I believe that they are looking for people with inner beauty. Physical attribute does not mean much to them.

[locohaiiyu05]

This is an interesting topic, maybe because it is so hard to define what beauty is. It's something different for everyone.

One thing that I'd like to throw out is... Well I think that beauty, whether it be physical, emotional, whatever, resounds in the same place in our consciousness. Meaning, if we see a pretty girl, listen to a cool song, or connect with someone else, these are all manifestations of comfort for our senses. Maybe in the end, all these things that we call beauty are all part of the same thing, a level of well being that people feel. That is why anyone, including people with a disability like blindness, can appreciate beauty.. Ultimately, however relative it is, beauty is a feeling.

[eastdemon]

The media have always tell us what beauty is. They said it is only the outside that counts, but I see it differently. When we consider what is beauty we should look at the subject as a whole.
If we say a girl is pretty than most of the times our mind see what it wants to see. Beauty is not perfection, is just the perspective somebody have.

[kamenrider1st]

A nice ass and rack is beauty to me...but overall inner beauty if more important...:nice:

[locohaiiyu05]

I have a question... How much do you think inner beauty shines on the outside? I don't mean a superficial definition of physical beauty, sexyness, or whatever... I mean, to what extent do you think that inner beauty has any sort of outer manifestation? How much of a person's inner qualities can you sort out from a first meeting? I know this is a highly subjective question, but I'd be interested to hear your opinions.

[Dyka]

If you put the situation into context, you could probably judge a girl's personality to a fair degree going by how she looks, yes. She may be putting on a lot of make-up, dressing sluttily, not taking care of her skin, etc. All of it can relate to how they are as a person.

[mrblue]

I have a question... How much do you think inner beauty shines on the outside? I don't mean a superficial definition of physical beauty, sexyness, or whatever... I mean, to what extent do you think that inner beauty has any sort of outer manifestation? How much of a person's inner qualities can you sort out from a first meeting? I know this is a highly subjective question, but I'd be interested to hear your opinions.

It is quite difficult to know the inner qualities of a person whom you just know. No matter how extrovert a person is, I believe there is still a defensive wall. The appearance and behaviour must be acceptable to the average person. It takes time for two persons to open up to each other and only then will they know of each other inner qualities.

[locohaiiyu05]

No matter how extrovert a person is, I believe there is still a defensive wall.

So true. That's one thing I've noticed about some people, how guarded they can be. Everyone is to a certain extent, just one of the things about living in society, where showing too much of yourself can leave you in a position of exposure and vulnerability... Most people don't like that.

But you know what... I think when people let their guard down and are more relaxed is when I think they're at their most attractive, because they're just being themselves. That's how good relationships are made, on those moments of relaxation.

[mrblue]

Everyone is to a certain extent, just one of the things about living in society, where showing too much of yourself can leave you in a position of exposure and vulnerability...

In this time and era, it is almost impossible to be yourself all the time. I'm not too sure how the others think but this is my opinion. Like what you said, showing too much of yourself only exposes your vulnerability. When I'm at work, I have to be strong or at least pretend to be strong so that no one can climb over me. It is only when I'm at home can I relax a little bit.

[locohaiiyu05]

It is only when I'm at home can I relax a little bit.

Just curious about this point mrblue... Do you think there is any say in time in this day and age that people can relax completely, not just a little bit? I don't mean being by yourself, but in interaction... Is it human nature to always be guarded? I think this question is interesting.

[mrblue]

Just curious about this point mrblue... Do you think there is any say in time in this day and age that people can relax completely, not just a little bit? I don't mean being by yourself, but in interaction... Is it human nature to always be guarded? I think this question is interesting.

People can definitely relax completely and not just a little bit. But this has to depend on your occupation and where you live. Between an office worker in Japan and a farmer living in the countryside, I believe that the latter has more time to relax completely. As for me, I tend to be myself when I'm with my buddies - friends whom I had known for years and are not likely to backstab or betray me.

I think there is no definite answer to your second question. I would say that most people are on the guard against other people. But this actually depends on that person's character and personality. And more importantly, the experiences that the person had gone through. For example, if Alice knew that a colleague was talking behind her back, she would be on the guard against her naturally.